Relatioship Issues

August 27, 2010

With the divorce rate in this country being over fifty percent, why then do people continue to get married? The economy makes it difficult even if you divorce to live separate at this time. The leading cause for divorce…. You guessed it… that low class bad weave wearing hoe in the corner and your man 2 drinks too many, priorities askew can’t keep his shit in his pants. My assignment for this article was to talk about the rules of cheating. Well my editor may not be pleased but I simply refuse to give a step by step guide to the how-to’s of screwing over another human being. Besides that the bottom line and only rule is … don’t get caught. The fact and truth is it IS cheaper to keeper, as horrible as it may sound.
So I have decided my article is going to be one that may make that difference when you head out tonight. Let’s talk about the 80/20 rule. That rule is by far the most accurate relationship rule ever created and yet so ignored. For those of you unaware of it the rule states “ in most relationships you will only get 80 percent of what you need from the other person, so when that 20 percent your lacking walks by, it looks so good to you that you can’t resist (many of you don’t ) and you leave your 80 for what is now and will always only be your 20”. In the long run you regret it, as you indeed should.
Simple human nature causes people to do things only thinking of themselves. You go out tonight and you don’t think at all about what you left at home. Don’t get me wrong I am a FIRM believer in not taking sand to the beach, that you should not bring your relationship into a club or party type atmosphere. But that doesn’t mean forget that you’re in a relationship as soon as you leave the house. Take the ring out of your pocket and purse people. Besides, the tan line is a giveaway. For Mr. Money… so is her name on your credit card!
Everyone says they value honesty. But do they? Could you handle your partner going out, drinking too much, being unfaithful, and then telling you? Can you be honest enough with yourself that if your relationship is on the rocks you have the nerve to end it before you hurt someone else? What if they don’t see it the way you do? Do you have open lines of communication? Do you know what the 20 percent is that you’re lacking in your relationship? Do you know what the 80 percent that you have in your relationship is?
Fact is headed out tonight; if you’re not in a relationship then you can bet that 4 out of the 5 men that approach you probably are.